Midlife Cry, Sis (Formerly known as The Bettys Podcast)

136 - Disappointment

Hello, Queens! Alexis and Mary are talking about how many people may disappoint us, and how difficult it can be to give ourselves permission to disappoint others. The solution is not always in the pulling of weeds, but possibly in allowing ourselves to be in our ‘disappoint everybody’ era.
 
Lexy talks about The Courage To Be Disliked by Ichiro Kishimi. As usual, here is a list of all our book recommendations here on Amazon. Mary mentions the film (500) Days of Summer, and in particular this clip of Expectations vs. Reality. We also talk about boundaries and beliefs.
 
Our challenge this week is to look objectively at yourself and your relationships, goals and career, and figure out what belief system you are using to support your fear of disappointment. What is disappointment doing for you? Is it motivating you, or is it shutting you down?
 
You can support our podcast, please visit our Patreon page for some extra goodies. Support starts at just $5/month, and it would be really great if we got paid to, like, talk.
 
Remember to subscribe to our YouTube channel. Check it out here! 
 
Please get in touch! Send us an email at midlifecrysispodcast@gmail.com  and follow us on Instagram @midlifecrysis_podcast, or join our Facebook group here.  We’re also on TikTok as TheBettysPodcast and on Twitter @bettys_podcast. 
 
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We love you!

135 - Breathwork, Bridgerton, and Being ALL THE THINGS

Greetings, Queens! Alexis and Mary are recording at 1:30am, and we’re a little loopy after doing a heavy breathwork session. We may or may not have new merch that says: “Fire Crotch. Give me a meat stick.”
 
Mary talks a little about her obsession with Bridgerton on Netflix, especially Season 3, which just debuted last week. They are based on a book series by Julia Quinn, which you can find here. Mary hasn’t read the books, so she can’t exactly recommend them, but (as per usual), here are all of our book recommendations here on Amazon. But the books, plus the ingenious golden touch of the incomparable Shonda Rhimes, equals magic. We do give some ***SPOILERS*** so don’t hate!
You can support our podcast, please visit our Patreon page for some extra goodies. Support starts at just $5/month, and it would be really great if we got paid to, like, talk.
 
Remember to subscribe to our YouTube channel. Check it out here! 
 
Please get in touch! Send us an email at midlifecrysispodcast@gmail.com  and follow us on Instagram @midlifecrysis_podcast, or join our Facebook group here.  We’re also on TikTok as TheBettysPodcast and on Twitter @bettys_podcast. 
 
We want to hear from you! Your comments and messages really help us know what you want to hear and how we can improve. If this show resonates with you, please make sure to share & subscribe, and give us a rating & review on Apple Podcasts, Spotify, or wherever you get your podcasts.
 
Remember to watch out for clear dipping oil if you don’t want crispy hair. We love you!

134 - Big Magic Attic

Greetings, Queens! Alexis and Mary are recording remotely, while Lexy is driving, so the sound quality is not the greatest. Thanks for bearing with us!
 
Mary talks about her trip to Denver, and about a book with a very interesting premise: The Husbands by Holly Gramazio. She also talks more about Big Magic: Creative Living Beyond Fear by Elizabeth Gilbert. As always, here are all of our book recommendations here on Amazon. Mary listens to most of her audiobooks on Libby, but the audio versions of these books are available everywhere as well.
 
Alexis might need to write a book about a “Magic Addict,” who misinterprets your wishes and gives you random things . . . which sounds a little like Beetlejuice, but has the potential to be really funny as well. Now, if Mary could stop saying “Magic Addict’ instead of “Magic Attic,” that would be helpful.
 
We talk about the “Man in the Arena” quote from Theodore Roosevelt. You can read it in its entirety here. We also talk about guilt and how we use it to justify taking care of ourselves or not.
 
You can support our podcast, please visit our Patreon page for some extra goodies. Support starts at just $5/month, and it would be really great if we got paid to, like, talk.
 
Remember to subscribe to our YouTube channel. Check it out here! 
 
Please get in touch! Send us an email at midlifecrysispodcast@gmail.com  and follow us on Instagram @midlifecrysis_podcast, or join our Facebook group here.  We’re also on TikTok as TheBettysPodcast and on Twitter @bettys_podcast. 
 
We want to hear from you! Your comments and messages really help us know what you want to hear and how we can improve. If this show resonates with you, please make sure to share & subscribe, and give us a rating & review on Apple Podcasts, Spotify, or wherever you get your podcasts.
 
Remember to turn down your thermostat for crazy, and get yourself some sticky notes. We love you!
 

133 - Why is Fear Holding You Back? (Big Magic, Part One)

Greetings, Queens! Alexis and Mary are starting off with some vocabulary lessons, but it doesn’t take us too long to sift through the rocks to get to the gold of this episode. The best part is that you get to pick what is the gold in your life!
 
Mary talks about a wonderful book purchased last year, but which she hadn’t read until she listened to it (twice!). It’s called Big Magic: Creative Living Beyond Fear by Elizabeth Gilbert. As always, here are all of our book recommendations here on Amazon. Mary listens to most of her audiobooks on Libby, but the audio version is available everywhere as well.
 
We talk about our fears, about what’s holding us back, and why we feel like we need permission to do certain things in our lives. 
 
You can support our podcast, please visit our Patreon page for some extra goodies. Support starts at just $5/month, and it would be really great if we got paid to, like, talk.
 
Remember to subscribe to our YouTube channel. Check it out here! 
 
Please get in touch! Send us an email at midlifecrysispodcast@gmail.com  and follow us on Instagram @midlifecrysis_podcast, or join our Facebook group here.  We’re also on TikTok as TheBettysPodcast and on Twitter @bettys_podcast. 
 
We want to hear from you! Your comments and messages really help us know what you want to hear and how we can improve. If this show resonates with you, please make sure to share & subscribe, and give us a rating & review on Apple Podcasts, Spotify, or wherever you get your podcasts.
 
Remember, “you can’t be brave if you’re not scared.” We love you!

132 - Things That Matter with Tracy Munson

Hello Hello, Queens! We’re here to “undo that mood and give you a vibe,” so we hope you are in for a fun ride! Alexis and Mary are joined today by our friend Tracy Munson, who works in the Chamber of Commerce in Cache Valley, Utah. She talks about authenticity, being a Christian, adoption, identity, active listening, and some other interesting topics. She mentions being a guest on another podcast, called Hearing the Unheard from Paz Wellness. Listen here on Apple and here on Spotify. 
 
Tracy also mentions the show “This is Us,” which she really resonates with. As of the time this episode is published, you can stream it here on Netflix. We also talk about playlists . . . and what your playlists say about you!
 
Mary mentions a couple of her favorite podcasts: Happier with Gretchen Rubin and Awesome with Alison. She also mentions an excellent audiobook called The Giver of Stars by Jojo Moyes and the incredible author/narrator Julia Whelan. As always, here are all of our book recommendations here on Amazon. 
 
Tracy talks about her own core values:
Trust my gut. Trust myself.
“Faith really matters. There’s more to life than just this…[and] life goes on”
Kindness, integrity, and authenticity matter. 
 
If you’d like to hear some more of our discussion with Tracy, please visit our Patreon page! You can support our podcast, please visit our Patreon page for some extra goodies. Support starts at just $5/month, and it would be really great if we got paid to, like, talk.
 
Remember to subscribe to our YouTube channel. Check it out here! 
 
Please get in touch! Send us an email at midlifecrysispodcast@gmail.com  and follow us on Instagram @midlifecrysis_podcast, or join our Facebook group here.  We’re also on TikTok as TheBettysPodcast and on Twitter @bettys_podcast. 
 
We want to hear from you! Your comments and messages really help us know what you want to hear and how we can improve. If this show resonates with you, please make sure to share & subscribe, and give us a rating & review on Apple Podcasts, Spotify, or wherever you get your podcasts.
 
Create your own “Misogyny” playlist, start casting your biopic, and figure out your own core values. We love you!

131 - Late Night at the Ice Cream Parlor

Greetings, Queens! We recorded this episode live, without any special equipment, so we hope you’ll forgive the background noise and sound quality. It’s a pretty random conversation, so we hope you enjoy!
 
We talk a bit about the delightful stage production of Pride and Prejudice by Melissa Leilani Larson performed at Salt Lake Community College. It is playing through June 8. We both highly recommend going, if you are in the Salt Lake area. Get your tickets here! And here’s a link to our recent conversation with Melissa (podcast episode 122).
 
We discuss how Melissa changed the characters a little bit, and how we enjoyed getting to know them. Mary references (and gives some spoilers to) The Other Bennet Sister by Janice Hadlow, which is linked, along with all of our book recommendations here on Amazon. Here’s a link to the episode where we talked about it (podcast episode 123). Alexis references Mi pequeña traviesa and La usurpadora, telenovelas she watched as a kid.
 
We also talk a bit about languages and travel, Mother’s Day, and clothing styles. If you wanna be a Mobster Wife, go for it. Some of us will stick with the Coastal Grandmother.
 
If you’d like to support this podcast, please visit our Patreon page for some extra goodies. Support starts at just $5/month, and it would be really great if we got paid to, like, talk.
 
Remember to subscribe to our YouTube channel. Check it out here! 
 
Please get in touch! Send us an email at midlifecrysispodcast@gmail.com  and follow us on Instagram @midlifecrysis_podcast, or join our Facebook group here.  We’re also on TikTok as TheBettysPodcast and on Twitter @bettys_podcast. 
 
We want to hear from you! Your comments and messages really help us know what you want to hear and how we can improve. If this show resonates with you, please make sure to share & subscribe, and give us a rating & review on Apple Podcasts, Spotify, or wherever you get your podcasts.
 
Be the skank…we mean snake, that we think you are. We love you!

130 - You ARE Sexy. Own it!

Welcome, Queens! To nobody’s surprise, Taylor Swift makes her way into our conversation again, as we talk about “Good Girl Syndrome,” lingerie, sexiness, confidence, and worth. Alexis talks about dominating vs competing. And how we all secretly want to be #everydaysexy
 
Lexy references a book called Worthy by Jamie Kern Lima, and Mary references the book The Gift by Edith Eger. As usual, you can find all of our book recommendations here on Amazon. Mary also references “Notting Hill,” which you can rent here on Amazon Prime. 
  
Here’s your final reminder that Alexis and Mary are going to see Melissa Leilani Larson’s adaptation of Pride and Prejudice at SLCC’s Grand Theater on Friday May 17, 2024; if you’d like to join us for this performance, please get your tickets here! Both Alexis and Mary spoke at at Light Switch Stories in Logan, Utah on Thursday May 9, 2024. Check out the write up here, Hopefully videos will be coming soon.
 
If you’d like to support this podcast, please visit our Patreon page for some extra goodies. Support starts at just $5/month, and it would be really great if we got paid to, like, talk.
 
Remember to subscribe to our YouTube channel. Check it out here! 
 
Please get in touch! Send us an email at midlifecrysispodcast@gmail.com  and follow us on Instagram @midlifecrysis_podcast, or join our Facebook group here.  We’re also on TikTok as TheBettysPodcast and on Twitter @bettys_podcast. 
 
We want to hear from you! Your comments and messages really help us know what you want to hear and how we can improve. If this show resonates with you, please make sure to share & subscribe, and give us a rating & review on Apple Podcasts, Spotify, or wherever you get your podcasts.
 
Stay sexy, and don’t get murdered. We love you!

129 - Becoming Real

Welcome to the Hot Mess show, Queens! The reality is that we’re legit in our Midlife Crises, so we’re a little unhinged, and apparently in our “Banging Era,” but this Friday Night Confessional is a good time. 
 
Mary finished a couple of books this week: Becoming by Michelle Obama, and The Gift by Edith Eger. As usual, you can find all of our book recommendations here on Amazon. She also talks about The Velveteen Rabbit by Margery Williams. There’s also some discussion on the Man vs. Bear debate, which has been going around on social media lately.
 
Here’s another reminder that Alexis and Mary are going to see Melissa Leilani Larson’s adaptation of Pride and Prejudice at SLCC’s Grand Theater on Friday May 17, 2024; if you’d like to join us for this performance, please get your tickets here! Alexis will also be speaking at Light Switch Stories in Logan, Utah on Thursday May 9, 2024. Please come say hi!
 
If you’d like to support this podcast, please visit our Patreon page for some extra goodies. Support starts at just $5/month, and it would be really great if we got paid to, like, talk.
 
Remember to subscribe to our YouTube channel. Check it out here! 
 
Please get in touch! Send us an email at midlifecrysispodcast@gmail.com  and follow us on Instagram @midlifecrysis_podcast, or join our Facebook group here.  We’re also on TikTok as TheBettysPodcast and on Twitter @bettys_podcast. 
 
We want to hear from you! Your comments and messages really help us know what you want to hear and how we can improve. If this show resonates with you, please make sure to share & subscribe, and give us a rating & review on Apple Podcasts, Spotify, or wherever you get your podcasts.
 
Remember that you get to decide what being real means to you. We love you!
 

128 - The Confidence Mask (You Are Your OWN Trophy!)

Hello, Queens! Get ready for us to drop some real “Dingers,” or words of wisdom from Mama Ximena. We talk about confidence, how we talk about our bodies, and how we perceive our own worth. We’re taking the Cher approach, where a man is not a necessity, but a man is a luxury.
 
We also talk about the sales bros culture of Utah. Shockingly, Alexis is NOT a Sales Bro, but she is learning a lot and enjoying her new job. We talk about masks and costumes, and how they affect children (and adults, tbh) and their actions. Costumes and masks give us permission to step into who we want to be. 
 
Let your light shine, and step into being truly yourself. If you need a mask to help you take those steps, then use it! 
 
Here’s another reminder that Alexis and Mary are going to see Melissa Leilani Larson’s adaptation of Pride and Prejudice at SLCC’s Grand Theater on Friday May 17, 2024; if you’d like to join us for this performance, please get your tickets here! Alexis will also be speaking at Light Switch Stories in Logan, Utah on Friday May 10, 2024. Please come say hi!
 
If you’d like to support this podcast, please visit our Patreon page for some extra goodies. Support starts at just $5/month, and it would be really great if we got paid to, like, talk.
 
Remember to subscribe to our YouTube channel. Check it out here! 
 
Please get in touch! Send us an email at midlifecrysispodcast@gmail.com  and follow us on Instagram @midlifecrysis_podcast, or join our Facebook group here.  We’re also on TikTok as TheBettysPodcast and on Twitter @bettys_podcast. 
 
We want to hear from you! Your comments and messages really help us know what you want to hear and how we can improve. If this show resonates with you, please make sure to share & subscribe, and give us a rating & review on Apple Podcasts, Spotify, or wherever you get your podcasts.
 
Remember that you are your OWN trophy. We love you!
 

127 - Taylor Swift, The Albatross, and The Fire-Breathing B*tch Queen

Greetings, Fire-Breathing B*tch-Queens! You might want to break out the peppermint oil, not because this episode stinks, but to help you bring your own hype. Sorry this isn’t a real hype-you-up kind of episode, but can that really be expected after having spent so much quality time roaming the halls of The Tortured Poets Department? Or is it the Tortured Poets Society? Mary’s pretty sure her GenX is showing, since she has been in love with some Dead Poets since the 80s. 
 
We reference quite a few songs in this episode, so here’s a short playlist:
Check out “I Can Do It With A Broken Heart” lyric video here on YouTube
Here’s “Down Bad” (cw: LOTS of swears on this one), but there’s a cleaner version on Spotify
Here’s a link to the lyric video for The Albatross on YouTube
And this is “The Weight of Living, Part 1” by Bastille on YouTube
 
Here are some of the websites Mary used for reference about Albatrosses:
 
Up Close and Personal with the Albatross (November 24, 2006) on npr.org
 
Albatross Symbolism and Spiritual Meaning on Sonoma Birding
 
Bird symbolism: 10 common birds and their spiritual meaning Friday, February 17, 2023 by  Mercy Mbuthia Jackline Wangare on legit.ng 
 
And here’s a link to the poem that (maybe) started the concept of an albatross around your neck: The Rime of the Ancient Mariner (text of 1834) by Samuel Taylor Coleridge. Here’s a YouTube quick explanation of the poem.
 
Mary also talks about the Throne of Glass series by Sarah J. Maas. You can check out those books, and a bunch of others we recommend and talk about here on Amazon.
What is your albatross? Is it good luck or bad luck? What if it’s just a bird, and it’s what YOU do with it that matters? “Albatross around your neck” is a burden, as a result of a bad decision. Is it a negative/limiting belief? What are you going to do when you receive divine messages? What perspective will you take - is it a good omen, or is it something that is trying to hurt you, so you try to destroy it, and it becomes a burden.
 
Here’s another reminder that Alexis and Mary are going to see Melissa Leilani Larson’s adaptation of Pride and Prejudice at SLCC’s Grand Theater on Friday May 17, 2024; if you’d like to join us for this performance, please get your tickets here! You can also check out Melissa’s play Bitter Lemon at Plan B Theater Company, currently playing in Downtown Salt Lake (April 2024). We will also be speaking at Light Switch Stories in Logan, Utah, on Friday May 10, 2024. Please come say hi!
 
If you’d like to support this podcast, please visit our Patreon page for some extra goodies. Support starts at just $5/month, and it would be really great if we got paid to, like, talk.
 
Remember to subscribe to our YouTube channel. Check it out here! 
 
Please get in touch! Send us an email at midlifecrysispodcast@gmail.com  and follow us on Instagram @midlifecrysis_podcast, or join our Facebook group here.  We’re also on TikTok as TheBettysPodcast and on Twitter @bettys_podcast. 
 
We want to hear from you! Your comments and messages really help us know what you want to hear and how we can improve. If this show resonates with you, please make sure to share & subscribe, and give us a rating & review on Apple Podcasts, Spotify, or wherever you get your podcasts.
 
Remember to stick your neck out for that Gen Z jawline, and to choose let go of that albatross around your neck. We love you!