015 - Manuals & Agendas

Today’s episode is pretty therapeutic for Mary; Alexis helps her process some big life changes in real-time. There’s a lot of talk about expectations, and Mary evangelizes Gretchen Rubin’s Four Tendencies framework. Knowing whether you’re an Upholder, an Obliger, a Questioner, or a Rebel (or a combination thereof) can help you achieve your goals and understand your motivations.

 

Mary also talks about a concept she learned from Brooke Castillo, called “The Manual” (we highly recommend listening to this episode of The Life Coach School Podcast to learn more). Understanding someone else’s lane, or agenda, while staying in (and honoring) your own, is something we could all be better at!

 

We discuss some of the big life changes we have experienced (like childbirth) and those we are currently going through (parenting teenagers, changing jobs, etc.). There is a mourning process, and we all need space to grieve and grow. We also need to decide what levels of guilt we are willing to live with. Like Oprah says, “You teach people how to treat you.”

 

Our Better Betty Challenge for today is to take the Four Tendencies quiz at https://gretchenrubin.com/quiz/. Tag us @thebettyspodcast on Instagram and tell us what your tendency is, and how you are handling the changes and expectations in your life. You can also on Facebook as The Bettys Podcast, and on Twitter @bettys_podcast 

 

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