079 - Feeling Unwanted? 5 Ways to Help Rejection Sting a Little Less

Hello, friends. We’re back to recording new podcast episodes after all the craziness of the end of summer, so Mary and Alexis are trying to remember how to talk to each other without talking over each other. Thanks for your patience! Lexy’s children are extremely photogenic, and Mary kinda resurrected her photography side-hustle to do a family photo shoot recently, at Photopia Studios in Cottonwood Heights, Utah (highly recommend!). If you’re interested in participating in a Bettys get-together to do some headshots, please let us know! We’d love to meet you!

Do you love summer? Our sister Rachael does, Lexy usually does, and Mary doesn’t quite as much, but it seems like this summer has sent a lot of people ‘off their rockers.’ There has been a lot of chaos, but hopefully we’re getting back into our fall and school routines!

One thing we liked to do when our kids were little is to go to Bear Lake every year. Now that they are getting older (and we all seem to be getting busier), it’s a lot harder to get everyone together. Mary tried to plan for a day, and even brought the Cooler o’Fun, but no one showed up that day (not even Lex). Good thing Mary brought her book with her (again, HIGHLY recommending Tom Lake by Ann Patchett; get it at Costco, a small bookstore if you can, or here on Amazon).

Everyone has to deal with rejection sometimes, and Mary came up with five ways to make it sting a little bit less:

1. Remember that being rejected is a story you are telling yourself. There are a lot of reasons why people may not show up. Be generous in your assumptions–we’re all doing our best.
2. Get used to rejection. You might want to try a sales job (or missionary service) where you might be turned down frequently. It’s completely unscientific, but Mary thinks that ⅓ of people are not going to like you, ⅓ of people will be neutral toward you, and ⅓ of people will like you. You cannot control what other people think about you, so focus on your people. 
3. Be curious, not judgemental (watch the dart scene from Ted Lasso here). There’s always more to the story.
4. Some rejections hurt more than others. Give it some time, and get some sleep.
5. Find a good distraction–get out of your head. Read a good book, go to a movie, go take a walk, do something creative that you’ve been putting off, etc. 

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Thank you for listening, Betty. Rejection may be hard and uncomfortable, but if you don’t place your music into everyone’s iTunes, and remember that we all have to deal with it, we think you’ll be okay. We’re so grateful for you, and we hope you’ll remember that we love you more.