084 - What Was I Made For? Barbie and Perfectionism

Hello, Bettys and Jacks! Even though Alexis doesn’t know Tears for Fears, she and Mary can have a light and fluffy discussion about music, reptiles, and road trip adventures. Listen to our Glacier Road Trip playlist here, and beware of Rawlins, Wyoming. Also, were you aware of the toad plague in Arizona during monsoon season? Weird. Get a (disturbing) taste of it by watching the scene from Magnolia here on YouTube.

 

Billie Eilish’s song “What Was I Made For” from the Barbie movie has really struck a chord with Lexy. Lex has been in therapy for several years, and has only in the past year or so started to come head-to-head with perfectionism. When we take away our coping mechanisms, it definitely feels like we “used to float,” but now we “just fall down.”

 

We get to choose what we believe, and what aligns with us, even if we’re not sure anymore. Lexy hid behind making everything look so ideal, but is starting to feel real again. This reminded Mary of a Train song called “Counting Airplanes” (listen here on Spotify), and how many times we believe relationships have to be transactional. A lot of times we don’t allow ourselves to be real, because we think we won’t be accepted or wanted for who we are, and that brings on the shame and guilt and judgment, which we try to avoid.

 

It’s easy to fall into the trap of thinking that someone else is responsible for your sadness and joy. The line from the song reminds us that it’s up to us to figure that out: 

 

“When did it end? All the enjoyment

I'm sad again, don't tell my boyfriend

It's not what he's made for

What was I made for?”

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